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How long will it take...?

Posted on June 9, 2017 at 8:35 AM Comments comments (0)

I decided to write again after a long time because I keep getting asked these questions: "How long will it take to learn the Alexander Technique?" or "How long will it take for the pain to go away?"

How long will it take someone to learn a new language? Do all people learn in the same way and at the same pace? How long will it take for you to learn to play a musical instrument? How long will you need to be in psychotherapy for in order to get the results you want?

Everything we go through in life - mentally, emotionally and physically - stays in our bodies as muscular tension which we carry throughout our lives but remains mostly unnoticed. This tension results in detrimental habits like compression, restriction and misuse occurring in various areas of the body.

So let's start with the first question: "How long will it take for the pain to go away?" The reason I can't give you a clear answer to this question is because there are so many factors involved: What kind of habits do you have? How long have they been there for? (Pain is not an indication of how long the habits have been there, because the excess tension in the body is there for some time before the pain sets in). How attached are you to your habits? How open to change are you? What are you not willing to let go of? What are you doing in your everyday life that's exacerbating your condition and how often and for what length of time are you doing it for? How fast do you learn? Are you facilitating your learning in your everyday life? With all these factors in mind (and others that I might have overlooked at this moment), can I possibly have a specific answer to your question?

My heart goes out to anyone who is suffering with pain right now. I've had my fair share of pain - neck pain, tension headaches, lower back pain and emotional pain. When all else failed to improved my condition, I came across the Alexander Technique and it was the only thing that had a lasting impact on my condition. It has totally changed my life and I know it can do the same for you.

Remember, the Alexander Technique is not a series of healing sessions. It is a series of LESSONS where you learn to direct the body by clear intention of the mind. This learning process results in releasing the unnecessary and debilitating muscular tension and in overcoming physical and emotional pain (among other things). If you're looking to be passively fixed, then you're missing the point.

The Alexander Technique is not a quick-fix. It's not about just getting rid of symptoms but, more importantly, it's about getting to the root cause of the condition. Even though in some of my students the pain went away or was significantly reduced after the first 1-2 lessons, in most cases it takes much longer than that. We are looking to reverse habits that may have been there for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years or more!

"How long does it take to learn the Technique?"  I have some bad news and some good news: The bad news is that the Alexander Technique is endless. The good news is that the Alexander Technique is endless! Yes, it is, and it keeps getting better and better as you progress. It goes deeper and deeper and you discover wonderful things. It's not only about getting rid of pain. Some people will have lessons until their pain goes away. Others will come for lessons for a long time, even though they have no painful condition, because they want to have other benefits like greater ease and freedom of movement, improved balance and coordination, reduced stress and anxiety, improved breathing, sleep, posture and poise, increased self awareness, etc. and, most importantly, because they enjoy the journey...

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

Misconceptions about Happiness

Posted on March 13, 2013 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (6)

People look for happiness in all sorts of ways: through obtaining objects or experiences, through trying to change various things around them, through distractions that keep their attention off their problems, through studying psychology, philosophy, religions, etc, or through reading self-help books, attending workshops, going to therapy, taking drugs etc.

The problem with a lot of ways we try to find happiness is that they are based on certain misconceptions. We think that our happiness is based on external circumstances, ones that need to be fixed so that we can be happy. We expect to find happiness when this happens or that changes or when those people around us change. So, happiness is then projected to some place fictional, in the future, at which we never arrive. Even if certain circumstances do change and all seems ok for a while, soon something is bound to change again. F.M. Alexander said “Conditions change so constantly that they cannot be adequately met by an external standard or fixed code as to what is right or wrong.” Yet, we constantly try to correct things extrinsically and to control and manipulate our life, or we feel inadequate and we try to fix ourselves and find what we are lacking, but it doesn’t work because the premise that we start from is wrong. It doesn’t matter what we do or what method we use.

There is nothing to fix, nothing to control. We can’t manipulate our lives. We need to let go of all that. There is nothing wrong with us, and we are not lacking anything! We are already perfect, complete, powerful and whole. All we need to do is learn to stop interfering with ourselves, to allow ourselves to just be. Then the problems we previously tried to solve dissolve on their own. When we realize that in life everything that is happening out there is reflecting what is happening inside us, it changes the whole way that we live. So, we are no longer victims of life…

There’s an analogy I like to use: Imagine that you’re banging your head against a wall and it ends up getting swollen and painful. The ache and the swelling is now ‘the problem’ so you put some ice on it or something, but you keep banging your head against the wall, so the problem doesn’t go away. As you continue to bang your head, a wound is created and no matter how much antiseptic lotion or antibiotic cream or herbal concoctions you use, it keeps getting worse. So, you start taking pain killers and other medication or something but that doesn’t really help either because you’re still banging your head against the wall!

What needs to happen first is for us to realize that we are perfect, as nature designed us, and that it is we ourselves that are interfering with that. Then, we can learn how to stop ‘banging our head against the wall’. 

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